Episode 17 - Building Boundaries & Balanced Living with Coach Kay: Bringing Intimacy Back & Self-Care for Women
By Jessica Garrison
Our first guest of the week is the one and only Coach Kay from the podcast, Bringing Intimacy Back. Melissa was featured on her podcast in the episode “Your Life, Your Rules,” and now we’re able to host her as our guest. Coach Kay is laid back, funny, and a serial entrepreneur.
Coach Kay is a mother of five, which most people would assume is a recipe for disaster in the boundaries category, but Coach Kay gets her children started early with boundaries. She used the example that from a young age, her children knew that if there was a door closed, they should knock before going in. Although they don’t have the right words yet, they are already understanding and respecting someone’s boundaries. After something small like that is established, it makes explaining them and putting more into place much easier.
Coach Kay also emphasizes the importance of taking care of all areas of one’s health, including physical, mental, and spiritual. When she was experiencing too much stress, her body started to shut down physically. She says that while growing up, she saw her mother constantly on the go, never having enough time to take care of herself. She’d seen the negative impact that had, and she knew she needed to start treating herself better. It was a pivotal point in her journey to not only discover, but to also understand the need for a balance between different aspects of a person’s health. If one is being ignored, then it will eventually catch up and cause the others to diminish.
This realization led her to seeing the value in herself and acting accordingly. She respects her body as well as her mind, and I really don’t think people understand how much this can change their lives. It isn’t about being a specific weight or running yourself into the ground with exercise, but it’s about what is making you feel good both inside and out. Filling your body with nutritious food, working anxieties out of the body with movement, and journaling are just a few examples of things to do that will help in all areas of making you feel healthier. Once you start to make these changes, from boundaries to accepting your layers, it becomes apparent in other areas of your life, including the relationships you have around you.
It’s clear that Coach Kay has a lot of knowledge and experience to share, so go give her episode with Melissa a listen and explore these connections further. We have such a great community of women we have built over the years, and it only continues to grow, giving me great hope for the future.
Ways to Engage: Focus on yourself in silence. Feel the weight of what you’ve been carrying from the past and things you cannot change from the present. Release or work towards releasing the things that hold you down. Check back in with yourself every so often. If you start to feel lighter, you’re heading in the right direction.