Episode 28: The Power of Putting Yourself First with Val Jones: Overcoming People Pleasing & Embracing Self-Care
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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of emotional abuse.
What if being "selfish" was actually the key to living a healthier, happier, and more authentic life?
In this empowering episode, Val Jones shares her transformative journey from chronic people-pleasing and "Good Girl Syndrome" to becoming a bold advocate for self-care, personal growth, and unapologetic living. Val reveals how years of prioritizing everyone else's needs left her disconnected from herself, and why dedicating an entire year to putting herself first changed everything.
Together, we explore the powerful mindset shift that redefines what it means to be selfish. Rather than a negative trait, Val believes self-care, self-worth, and personal boundaries are essential acts of self-respect that allow women to thrive.
Val discusses the importance of reconnecting with your mind, body, and soul, learning to sit with discomfort, and asking deeper questions that lead to healing and self-discovery. She also shares insights from her book, The Selfish Year: The Power of Putting Yourself First, and explains how embracing your authentic self creates a ripple effect that inspires others to do the same.
If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, burnout, low self-worth, emotional exhaustion, or the pressure to always put others first, this conversation will encourage you to reclaim your voice, prioritize your needs, and live unapologetically.
In This Episode You'll Learn:
How to overcome people-pleasing behaviors
Why self-care is not selfish
Breaking free from Good Girl Syndrome
Setting healthy boundaries without guilt
The connection between self-worth and personal growth
How emotional healing begins with self-awareness
Why authentic living inspires others
The power of mindset shifts and positive self-talk
Practical ways to reconnect with yourself
How putting yourself first can transform your life
Resources Mentioned:
National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Text START to 88788
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Ways to Engage: Start asking, “What’s wrong?” rather than, “What’s wrong with me?” Nothing is wrong with you, but if there is something that is bothering you, dig deeper without blaming yourself. How you frame your words, especially internally, is so important to how you think of yourself. Be kind, be patient, and be curious.
Timestamps:
Prioritizing Self Care - ( 4:12 )
Confidently Setting Boundaries - ( 14:34 )
Taking Care of Your Emotional Health as much as Your Physical Health - ( 21:31 )
Support self & other women unapologetically - ( 29:36 )
Coming Back to Your WHY and Your VALUES - ( 35:04 )
Living Out of Your Own Expectations - ( 41:47 )
Accepting the Layered Aspects of Yourself - ( 45:05 )
Living out FEEL, how does it affect your relationships - ( 55:47 )
5 Activities That Nourish You - ( 58:59 )
5 Words for How You Want to Feel in the Next Six Months - ( 1:02:31 )
Original Music by Rio & Valencia Saint-Louis
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